One day someone steals your bicycle, eats your
lunch, insults you and trips you on the stairs.
After a few days of this you call that person a worm
and a dog and what's worse maybe even say their
mother wears army boots.
But then you start to feel uncomfortable in your
skin so even though you consider the sins of the
other far greater than yours you say, "I'm sorry I
called you a worm and a dog and your mother
actually wears nice shoes."
And surprise of surprises you find being good with
the other person isn't important, being good with
yourself is what matters.
Is this feeling of being back on an even keel
My churchy understanding is that forgiveness means
that you never again think of what was said and
done and like a frigging saint you pick up with the
person as if it never happened.
Fine if your name is Mother Theresa.
It seems to me right now that it isn't churchy
forgiveness that is called for, rather it is
being right with your God(s), loving and
respecting your own soul and being able to
gently let the other person go.
One translation of the Irish 'le gach dea-ghuí' is
"go with prayers".